When the going gets tough, what do you do?
Every one of us face times of disappointment and difficulty every now and then. We all have to learn how to handle it. In a way, we’re forced to grow up in a world that turns and turns whether or not we like it to.
So what do we do?
No point bawling like a baby, at least not for long– perhaps just to expend our emotions for while. Here’s how I work through it:
1. Find a practical solution for your situation.
Of course, that is the most logical, albeit not the easiest. Is there anything you can change about it, to make it more bearable? Perhaps it’s an unbearable colleague or boss… you can try to work on the relationship or seek for a transfer or just quit and leave with dignity.
2. If it’s a situation you absolutely cannot change, find the silver lining in the cloud.
I’m not just referring to the silver lining of that particular cloud you’re in, but to the rainbows and the sunshine outside of the cloud as well. If you cannot change it, might as well make the best out of it. Keep thinking of the happy things you do have to keep your spirits up– each of us surely have at least one good thing going in our lives. E.g. my faith and my family keeps me going when the going gets tough. Me? I’m no toughie… ^^
3. Keep a favourite hobby.
It helps (to an undescribable extent) to be able to take your mind off and do something you are passionate about and enjoy. It’ll be medicine for your soul. E.g. I love to blog. I write about what I think and feel and like in it. It also acts as a diary of sorts.
4. Avoid the blackholes of your joy.
In life, meeting people who are absolute kill-joys is an inevitable occurrence. What matters is what you do about it. I refer to these people as blackholes of joy– they vacuum suck the life and happiness out of you. You really don’t need them around, especially when you’re down in the dumps, so rid yourself of their evil company! Conversely, hang around those who cheer you up. 🙂
At the end of the day, you’ll have to respond in some way or another– why not take constructive action? Perhaps I could cheer you with a final thought: no bad situation lasts forever. Things will change because change is the only constant in the world. 🙂
When the going gets tough, the tough gets tougher. If it can’t kill you, it’ll make you stronger.
On a separate note, let me share the latest story that rather touched me. I read it from AsiaOne just yesterday. It’s about a 10-year-old girl from Chengdu, Sichuan, named Yao Qifeng, who loves ballet but whose parents were too poor to send her for formal lessons. So instead, her father found her the perfect spot to practice her dance moves– in an open public square. There, she pirouettes and twirls every day after dinner-time, under dim street lights and in full view of passers-by– for more than a year. Her story was first highlighted in a local newspaper when it moved millions of individuals and many organisations, who has since offered her sponsorship to learn ballet. She’s overcome. 🙂 You can read her story here: http://www.edvantage.com.sg/edvantage/news/news/511014/Show_stopper.html